Rebuttal
This editorial was written in reaction to last month's column by Maureen Dowd.
| Why Dowd Doesn't Know What Men Really Want By Rivers and Barnett Today's
    commentators say it's a shame that Maureen Dowd should depend on such flaky research and
    flimsy evidence when writing about feminism. Dowd's article, based on weak research, was
    the most e-mailed story from The New York Times yesterday.  Editor's Note:The following is a commentary. The opinions expressed are those of the author and not necessarily the views of Women's eNews. (WOMENSENEWS)--A
    growing media narrative over the past year says men do not like high-achieving women.  It's been fueled
    by stories in, among others, The New York Times, the Chicago Sun Times, Toronto Star,
    "60 Minutes" and the Atlantic magazine. This drumbeat
    reached its zenith Sunday in Maureen Dowd's New York Times Magazine piece, "What's A
    Modern Girl to Do?" The article has
    become the most e-mailed article from the Times' Web site and has left Dowd fielding
    readers' mail on "the past and future of feminism." What a waste of
    such a powerful platform. If only Dowd--capable of such wit, charm and political
    insight--had bothered to check her social science data. "Decades
    after the feminist movement promised equality with men," Dowd laments, "it was
    becoming increasingly apparent that many women would have to brush up on the venerable
    tricks of the trade: an absurdly charming little laugh, a pert toss of the head, an air of
    saucy triumph, dewy eyes and a full knowledge of music, drawing, elegant note writing and
    geography. It would once more be considered captivating to lie on a chaise lounge, pass a
    lacy handkerchief across the eyelids and complain of a case of springtime giddiness." For this surreal
    description of contemporary men and women, Dowd draws on "data" that shows her
    running with the media pack, yes, but sadly out of touch with serious social science. An Alleged
    Trend In particular,
    Dowd hypes an alleged trend of men rejecting ambitious women based on a 2004 study by
    psychology researchers. Those findings, by psychologists Stephanie Brown of the 
 The study was
    done on a small sample of 120 male and 208 female undergraduates, mainly freshmen. The males rated
    the desirability as a dating or marriage partner of a fictitious female, described as
    either an immediate supervisor, a peer or an assistant. Surprise,
    surprise! The freshman males preferred the subordinate over the peer and over the
    supervisor when it came to dating and mating. The study,
    however, was no barometer of adult male preferences. Rather, it reflected teen boys'
    ambivalence about strong women. Men, by
    contrast, do not reject achieving women. Quite the opposite. Sociologist Valerie
    Oppenheimer 
of  Evolutionary
    Theory Another major
    problem with the college students study was that investigators claimed an evolutionary
    basis, namely, that men's drive to reproduce their genes leads them to prefer relatively
    subordinate, docile females. By the same
    evolutionary token, then, women should be "hardwired" to seek as mates men who
    are older, dominant and in control of financial resources. But that same college study
    found nothing of the sort. Instead, the young women showed no preference for dominant
    males over other males for either dating or mating. The notion that
    women are driven by their genes to seek older, rich men has been skewered by recent
    research.  Alice Eagly 
of  It found that in
    societies where women have access to resources, they do not choose older
    "provider" males to marry. Instead, they go for men who are kind, intelligent
    and can bond with children. Yes, when women
    can't pay their own way, rich older men look pretty good, even if they don't change
    diapers or listen to what a woman has to say. But when women bring home the bacon
    themselves, they start looking for something quite different in a guy.  Dredging
    Up the IQ Study Dowd dredges up
    another study about men not liking smart women. This one was conducted by investigators at
    four British universities (Edinburgh, Glasgow,  Really bad news
    for bright women, right? Not. Neither
    Dowd nor the  Should a study
    of octogenarian women be taken as a guide for today's young people? No. Dowd also
    recycles Sylvia Ann Hewlett's argument, from her book "Creating a Life," that
    high-achieving women tend to be miserable and often childless. For a challenge to that
    data, read Heather Boushey of the Center for Economic Policy Research. In a 2002 published
    study based on several large government data sets, Boushey found high achievers little
    different from other working women. From 36 to 40,
    high achievers are more likely to be married and have kids than other female workers, but
    they marry later than other women. Boushey found that women between the ages of 28 and 35
    who work full time and earn more than $55,000 a year or have a graduate or professional
    degree are just as likely to be successfully married as other working women. Dowd writes that
    many women today "want to be Mrs. Anonymous Biological Robot in a Docile Mass. They
    dream of being rescued; to flirt, to shop, to stay home and be taken care of." And so
    forth. Irritating
    Fluff Dowd's writing
    is fun, but is basically a bunch of irritating fluff. As a piece of
    institutionally self-serving evidence, for instance, she refers to a recent front-page
    story in The New York Times about young women attending an Ivy League college who were
    planning to reject careers in favor of staying home and raising children. The article
    claimed that 60 percent of women in two Yale dorms wanted to jettison careers and be
    stay-at-home moms. The story was
    not written by a Times reporter. It was written by a journalism student doing her graduate
    thesis who based her story on an e-mail survey. Slate media writer Jack Shafer found the
    "facts" in the story so flimsy that the reporter "deserves a week in the
    stockades. And her editor deserves a month." He pointed out that the writer used the
    word "many" 12 times in place of statistics. Writing in The
    Nation, columnist Katha Pollitt said she had contacted a number of people at Yale,
    including professors and students who were interviewed. She said not one felt the story
    fairly represented women at Yale. Many students said they'd thrown away the reporter's
    questionnaire in disgust.  Physics
    professor Megan Urry polled the 45 female students in her class and only two said they
    planned to stay at home as the primary parent. When Dowd bases
    her views of men and women on such poor research, it's no wonder that Dowd looks into the
    crystal ball of feminism and finds the picture so disconcerting. Caryl Rivers
    is a professor of journalism at  We invite your
    comments on this story. E-mail us at 
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